Nobody sets out to ruin their divorce. It usually happens one reasonable-seeming decision at a time: the vague parenting plan, the furious email, the pile of screenshots, the child used as messenger. Here are seven common ways people make divorce harder, longer, and more expensive—and what to do instead.

Some conversations go sideways because of what you said. Others go sideways because of who you said it to. This piece covers both — plus how to respond when the other person will use your honesty against you.

You didn't say it at dinner. You didn't say it in the meeting either.

Those aren't two separate decisions. Nobody has a home nervous system and a separate work nervous system — the way you handle conflict at the kitchen table is the way you handle it at 2:15 on a Tuesday.

New piece on where the conversation actually goes when you skip it, why avoidance is a genuine skill running on old data, and five things to do instead.

One question to run before you decide something isn't worth bringing up: am I letting this go, or am I storing it?