High-Conflict Divorce Strategy & consultingThis isn’t a typical divorce.
If things keep escalating, communication goes nowhere, and your children are caught in the middle,
Typical won’t work. Strategy will.
This isn’t general advice — it’s strategic guidance and support built for divorcing a narcissist.
If This Is YouWhat you’re feeling has a name.
You’ve been trying to cooperate your way out of a situation that cooperation cannot fix.
You have an attorney. You have a therapist. You’re still drowning.
The confidence wears off before you even get home. What felt clear in their office dissolves the moment you’re back in your actual life.
If that lands — you’re in the right place.
Divorcing a narcissist touches every area of your life. The work is understanding what’s happening and responding to it - in all four lanes at once.
- Physical safety planning — recognizing escalation before it happens
- Digital safety — most clients don't realize their ex has access to their devices, accounts, or location until we check
- Financial safety — protecting accounts, documents, and credit
- Coercive control — recognizing it even without physical violence
- Understanding what you've been living through — and why you're reacting the way you are
- Trauma-informed education so you can stop feeling confused and start seeing clearly
- Nervous system regulation tools that work under pressure
- Reality checks when gaslighting makes you doubt yourself
- A thought partner for your biggest decisions
- Becoming a "credible client" — the kind judges believe and attorneys can defend
- Documentation that holds up — organized for legal consumption, not journal-style venting
- Parenting plans built for real life with a high-conflict ex, not theoretical scenarios
- "Co-parenting" with someone who actively works against you
- Parenting children who are weaponized, put in the middle, or acting erratically themselves
- Navigating the guilt of leaving the abuse but still not being able to protect your kids from it
- Responding to inflammatory messages without escalating
Certified Divorce Coach
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Co-Parenting Specialist
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Certified High-Conflict Legal Dispute Resolver
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Certificated Paralegal
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Certified High-Conflict Mediator
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Member: San Diego Paralegal Association • California Legal Document Assistants • National Association of Legal Assistants • Association of Family & Conciliation Courts • North County Bar Association
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Certified Divorce Coach • Co-Parenting Specialist • Certified High-Conflict Legal Dispute Resolver • Certificated Paralegal • Certified High-Conflict Mediator • Member: San Diego Paralegal Association • California Legal Document Assistants • National Association of Legal Assistants • Association of Family & Conciliation Courts • North County Bar Association •
About CharlianaI walked this path alone.
Now, we can walk together.
I know what it feels like to be in a divorce that does not behave like a normal divorce. The text messages that make your stomach drop. The accusations that rewrite reality. The attorney meetings where you try to explain the manipulation, the fear, the parenting issues, the financial pressure, and the emotional whiplash — only to realize no one is seeing the whole picture.
I built Cerberus Family Solutions for people navigating high-conflict divorce, coercive control, narcissistic or borderline traits, and the kind of post-separation conflict that pulls children, families, finances, and reputations into the fight. My work sits at the intersection of legal strategy, human behavior, trauma responses, and practical day-to-day survival. I do not replace your attorney. I help you become a clearer, steadier, better-prepared client — so your legal team can do their job with better facts, better documentation, and less chaos.
This work is both personal and professional for me. I understand how these cases unfold from the inside, and I bring the structure, language, and strategy I wish I had earlier. You do not need more panic. You do not need generic advice. You need someone who can help you see the pattern, protect your credibility, steady your nervous system, and make your next move with intention.
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Client Experiences"Going through a divorce and co-parenting with a narcissist has been the hardest thing I've ever experienced. Charli has supported me through every part of the process."
"Every person in a situation like this deserves a Charli. If you are willing to take her direction and learn, you will be amazed at the growth that comes from working with her."
"One of the most impactful outcomes has been learning how to set healthy boundaries — not just with others, but with myself."
"Charliana was so great to work with. It was so nice to get her perspective. She asked great questions to help me understand things better for myself, asking the harder questions to get through some layers that I hadn't realized were there."
"Working with Charli has been amazing. She does such a great job of guiding conversation with gentleness, understanding and care. She's helped me find things that were deeply embedded in my programming and together we figured out small ways to make the changes. It's truly been a blessing to work with Charli."
"Charli does such a great job at sitting in the moment and helping me process through, rather than just telling me things. I always leave our time together with actionable things to work on, thinking of things in a new way and something to focus on for the week."
"Going through a divorce and co-parenting with a narcissist has been the hardest thing I've ever experienced. Charli has supported me through every part of the process."
"Every person in a situation like this deserves a Charli. If you are willing to take her direction and learn, you will be amazed at the growth that comes from working with her."
"One of the most impactful outcomes has been learning how to set healthy boundaries — not just with others, but with myself."
"Charliana was so great to work with. It was so nice to get her perspective. She asked great questions to help me understand things better for myself, asking the harder questions to get through some layers that I hadn't realized were there."
"Working with Charli has been amazing. She does such a great job of guiding conversation with gentleness, understanding and care. She's helped me find things that were deeply embedded in my programming and together we figured out small ways to make the changes. It's truly been a blessing to work with Charli."
"Charli does such a great job at sitting in the moment and helping me process through, rather than just telling me things. I always leave our time together with actionable things to work on, thinking of things in a new way and something to focus on for the week."
What You're Feeling Has a Name
A 60-minute live working session for parents navigating high-conflict divorce.
This isn't a watered-down preview or a pitch in disguise. It's the session I built to replace one-on-one discovery calls — because the most important thing I can do in our first hour together isn't sell you anything. It's to help you see clearly what you're actually navigating, and let you decide whether I'm the right person to help.
- The language for what you've been living through — because naming it is the first move that changes anything
- Why your nervous system is in the fight, and what it actually needs to settle — beyond "just stay calm"
- The three mistakes that quietly cost good people their cases — and the patterns judges and attorneys are actually looking for
- Whether this is the work you need next — and if it is, what comes after
Abuse thrives in silence.
You've been quiet long enough. That changes here.
Take the quiz. Join the masterclass. Or take The Call — a 90-minute working session where we map your situation and build your next moves.